[Solved] Calling Elders by Their First Name Abroad: How Do You Handle Respect Culture at Work and School?

Tokunbo Central’s answer: community members describe a “two worlds” approach that keeps respect without seeming out of place.

• At work: follow local norms. If people use first names, do the same; politeness comes through tone, punctuality and how you listen.
• Let elders lead: if someone older asks you to use their first name, it is respectful to do so.
• At home and in community spaces: keep Aunty, Uncle, Ma, Sir and greeting customs. Children can learn both systems.
• Explain your culture: many colleagues are curious and appreciate a quick explanation of why you greet the way you do.
• Kids’ friends: many parents ask children’s friends to say “Aunty” or “Mr/Mrs” plus surname. Most families abroad are happy to follow your lead.

Your turn: do you still say “Ma” and “Sir” at work abroad? How do your colleagues react?